Four Man Plan A Romantic Science

4word In July 2006, a one-woman show,The Four Man Plan, premiered in a tiny theater with a stack of self-published books on sale in the lobby. To be honest, when I called it a Dating Revolution at that time, I really thought it could be, but I was kind of blowing smoke. Turns out, I'm superpsychic! It's all that and a box of bonbons. It's not only a Dating Revolution, to all us girls The 4MP is Dating'sEvolution. It is an easy-to-follow scientific system that will teach you the basics of love, internal and external, as it should have been taught around the same time as high school. The only requirement to becoming a 4MPlanner is a desire to take charge of your love life. Not just wishing and hoping and gluing pictures of J. Crew male models onto your vision board, I mean getting down and dirty with the subject of love and doing something about getting more of it into your life. To my giddy delight and surprise, The 4MP is now being experimented with and enjoyed by everyone from teenage girls to sexagenarians. And just recently, I received news of a 4MPlanner gettingengagedjust five months after starting The Plan. They are blogging and cataloging, laughing and graphing all the way to the altar! The input I've received from real women trying The Plan, whether loyalists or dabblers, has been invaluable. In this edition, I wanted to answer their questions and include their insights. The Four Man Plan is, after all, about what we can do to help one another and love ourselves. If someone has given you this book as a gift, one of three things is happening: 1. Your gal pal is a 4MPlanner and having a blast. It's definitely more fun with your friends along for the ride. Join in! 2. Your friend/relative/coworker is pretty sure you suck at love and is looking to give you a leg up. Don't be offendedthey love you and want you to be happy. 3. Your parents are using this book to replace or augment the awkward parent/child "sex talk." Trust me, you'll get the straight poop here from your cool aunt Cindy. Feel free to discuss it with them after you've read it. (It's probably what they are hoping for.) Are You Ready? The structure for dating, the clear-cut answers about relationships that you've been waiting for, is finally here! The Four Man Plan starts where therapy and self-help books leave off. To begin, let us assume that you recognize that your parents are somewhere between flawed and psychotic, and that whatever was messing them up has had its part in messing you up. Cop to it and don't let it get you down. It is not a life sentence. It is a given that you have put considerable effort into the love thing and you are now in the red. All the time, energy, sacrifice, and heartache you have invested has added up to nothing more than a pile of empty Kleenex boxes, some blocked phone numbers, and one too many goddess ceremonies. It is taken for granted that you are fabulous, smart, well liked, and successful in most other areas of your life. You have used your single time wisely to pursue your friendships and your career and your personal development. You're independent; you know you don't need a man. You are not a loser, you're just single. Maybe it's because you're dating aimlessly. Maybe you're in love with someone who just won't give you what you need. Or maybe you're dreading-Valentine's-Day, cooking-for-one, sleeping-with-your-cat single. Very, very single. Are you starting to suspect that love is not your best subject? In my circle of very smart and savvy single girlfriends, we swapped several forms of co-misery on a regular basis: a. Bizarre dating stories:[read more]