Emotional Infidelity How to Affair Proof Your Marriage and Ten Other Secrets to a Great Relationship

How Great Is Your Marriage? Answer the following fifteen questions, then tabulate your responses to find out how your marriage stacks up. 1. Your spouse has gained ten pounds and says to you, "I've really put on a few pounds lately." You would say: A. "You could lose some weight. Since you brought it up, I'll admit that it's kind of a turn-off." B. "C'mon, you look great!" C. "Actually, I was wondering if you were in some sort of eating Olympics." D. "If you'd like, let's find a diet together. We could both use a healthier eating plan." 2. You receive a promotion or some other great news. You would immediately: A. Tell your spouse before anyone else. B. Tell your friends/colleagues, then celebrate with them. C. Tell the person you are hoping to have an affair with. D. Tell your mother. 3. A sexy person is flirting with you. You would: A. Flirt back, feel great, and say, "I hope we talk soon." B. Excuse yourself immediately because you remembered you "have an appointment." C. Excuse yourself by saying, "Excuse me, but my spouse just beeped me and we have plans." D. Flirt back and then ask this person to join you for coffee. 4. It's 9:30 p.m. on a Wednesday night, and you've just finished putting the kids to bed after a full day's work. You would: A. Turn on the television set and "zone out." B. Ask your spouse to join you for some quiet timereading together in bed, taking a walk, or hanging out in the living room. C. Make lunches and clean the kitchen with your spouse. D. Leave to go to the board meeting for the organization you volunteer for. 5. You've just had a fight with your spouse. The first person you would discuss it with is: A. Your sibling. B. Your opposite-sex colleague. C. Your friend. D. Your spouse. 6. When a topic arises that you think your spouse and you will disagree on, you would: A. Only discuss it when you think your spouse is in a good mood so you won't blow up at each other. B. Act on your opinion and then tell your spouse. C. Open the topic up for discussion with your spouse while keeping an open mind. D. Avoid discussing it at all costs. 7. On an average week, you spend ____ hour(s) talking, having fun, or spending some enjoyable time alone with your spouse. A. Over seven. B. Between four and seven. C. Between one and three. D. Less than one. 8. When you think of your sexual relationship with your spouse, you think: A. It's loving and getting better. We really connect. B. It's boring. C. What sex? D. It's usually nice, and at times it's special. 9. The last time we were on a vacation alone for two nights or more was: A. Before we had kids. B. Within the last six months. C. Within the last year. D. Over a year ago. 10. When you think of your spouse, you primarily think: A. We deserve each other's craziness. B. He/she tries hard to be a good spouse. I feel we can get over the bumps. C. How did I end up with him/her? D. He/she is loving and sensitive and has a lot of goodness. 11. Your childhood was: A. Some good/some struggle, but you're not sure how it has affected who you are. B. Just about perfect. C. Some good/some struggle, and you can see some of the ways it has affected who you are. D. Some good/some struggle, but you can't think about it. 12. Your spouse would say that you: A. Really understand him/her and know what he/she needs to feel loved. B. Have little understanding of who he/she is but are willing toNeuman, M. Gary is the author of 'Emotional Infidelity How to Affair Proof Your Marriage and Ten Other Secrets to a Great Relationship' with ISBN 9780609810002 and ISBN 0609810006.