10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives

1. Stupid Attachment Looking to the context of a man to find and define yourself 2. Stupid Courtship Becoming a beggar, not a chooser, in the dating ritual because you are desperate to have a man 3. Stupid Devotion Finding yourself driven to love, and suffer, and succor (or is that "sucker"?) in vain 4. Stupid Passion Having sex too soon, too romantically, setting yourself up to be burned 5. Stupid Cohabitation Lying to yourself and living with him because you hope he'll want you 6. Stupid Expectations Using marriage as a quick fix for low or no self-esteem 7. Stupid Conception Using biology misguidedly as a jump-start for love, personal growth, and commitment 8. Stupid Subjugation Allowing you and your children to be held hostage by your own obsessive need for security and attachment 9. Stupid Helplessness Being too scared and insecure to deal with your rage and turning it into wimpyness instead 10. Stupid Forgiving Not knowing when to break off a no-win relationship, or how not to get involved in the first place.Schlessinger, Laura is the author of '10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives' with ISBN 9780060976491 and ISBN 0060976497.